I’m reading a great book right now. It is one I had not heard of before a colleague started a book club. It’s called Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.
We have our meeting on Chapter One tonight, but I’m indulging in reading Chapter Two at the moment, and it’s about failing.
This is on my mind because right now at work we are getting ready to work with some trials who want to be hired. It flashes me back to when I was a trial almost six years ago and had a day filled with failure.
To get this job as a Happiness Engineer (customer/tech support for WordPress.com), I had to apply, go through an interview, work on a project assigned to me, have another interview, then I had to go through two days of intense training then actually do the job for up to six weeks (a time during which I could have been told at any moment that I was not the right fit — or I could have told Automattic that they were not the fit for me, and I would have stopped). At the end of that time, I had one final 3-hour interview. Then I was hired. Whew!!!
One of the best things that has ever happened to me.
But trial was really daunting. The more I did the job, the more I realized I loved it, and I would have been devastated to not get it. Initially I was hoping for an income doing something with my talents. But it turned into something even more important during that trial time. It was a connection with colleagues and with customers that I didn’t want to let go.
And I nearly ruined it all one day during that trial.
I still don’t know what happened, but I had an off day. I communicated poorly, I gave wrong answers, I researched incorrectly. Basically any way I could mess up — I did. It’s actually impressively mind-boggling in retrospect to see how much I messed up.
Yet there is a very high probability that the day that went so awry was the catalyst to my being hired. There is strength in vulnerability. I can attest to that.
I had my weekly trial meeting with the hiring team, and they asked me about the day. When they asked what happened, I said that I didn’t know. I just messed up. They asked what I was going to do about it, and I told them I had already done it. I had gone back and contacted each person I gave a wrong answer to/mis-communicated with and apologized and gave them the correct information.
It wasn’t a great situation, and I’m sure I wouldn’t have been hired if I continued to have regular days like that. But it showed that I was human, that I was honest, that I work hard, and I can be humble. Probably all good qualities.
That is what this book talks about. It’s important out of work, too (my thoughts — not in the book). With relationships, it’s so important to admit when we are wrong — to be vulnerable enough to tell others we love that we were out of line.
A friend of mine wrote a post today that ties right into this topic. And I don’t even think she is reading the same book. Haha. Perhaps her post subconsciously inspired me to write this one. I didn’t think about her post until I got this far down in mine, but it’s actually an ideal tie-in to all I am saying and is a perfect closer to my writing. Her post is entitled Awesome things about being wrong. I encourage you to check it out.
12 responses to “Making Mistakes”
You have a sterling character, and I believe that is the foundation of your success. When things go wrong, you make them right. Honesty is a hallmark of your dealing with everyone in your life. I admire you tremendously and am so very proud of you.
:blush: That means a ton coming from you. Thank you for those kind words. I love you!
You are very dear to my heart.
Another friend recently shared that book as one of her favorites. I have listened to several podcasts with Brené Brown and she recently started a new podcast of her own.
I appreciate how vulnerable you are letting yourself be by sharing this post. Sometimes when we have off days, it’s easy to beat ourselves up. It’s so important to realize that messing up is part of life, and part of how we learn and go and change.
>part of how we learn and go and change.
Exactly. Well said.
Well that should have been grow rather than go 🙂
Look at you making mistakes and boldly moving on! 😉
I do not happen to be reading Daring Greatly at the moment, but I don’t think it’s an exaggeration to say Brenè Brown has been one of the top 5 positive influences in my life. Every time I dive into her work I emerge as a more authentic version of myself. So I’m sure the post was inspired by her :).
That is so cool. I had not heard of her before. But I def. loved your post. fun to know you love her, too.
Wonderful post!!! Indeed, humility is an awesome personality facet. And now I’m zipping right over to your colleague’s post! Thanks for the tip! 🙂