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Layover Time in Life

How I'm finding quality time with friends and family and achieving a work/home life balance amidst the chaos of daily living by incorporating a layover strategy.

All I wanted was to talk to someone in full sentences. I remember that feeling well from my years as a stay-at-home mom with a toddler. When my husband came home from work I greeted him with a torrent of babble that didn’t take into his account his tired state of mind after a long day of interacting with others.

It wasn’t good for the marriage, and one day he verbalized that and asked for just 15-30 minutes of time before we started discussing our days. He was right, and I found that when I waited just a short bit, he actually listened to me a lot better.

Fast forward 24-25 years since those toddler days, and I’m struggling to find a balance of work/home life. I spend a full workday answering questions, researching, troubleshooting and testing WordPress issues, and by the end of the day my brain is often fried. Ironically, it’s a struggle to string a sentence (oh, how times have changed).

This state of mind is not ideal when your mother-in-law has a Jeopardy addiction and likes to watch it with people. Or when Chris wants to discuss things with me. It sometimes literally gives me a headache having to think and answer more questions and to focus. But I know it’s really important to engage actively with my loved ones and put my workday behind me.

I discussed this with my job coach, who travels internationally using her talents as a certified conflict mediator and coach to work through some pretty intense situations. She had some good advice on figuring out this balance.

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The Layover

In her own training, she and others are advised to extend layovers while traveling so one doesn’t go home immediately after working through tough situations elsewhere. Take a few days. Regroup. Transition from the task you completed to your life ahead. This is something I can do on a small scale in my daily life.

As I looked at my daily schedules, I began to do some adjusting. Again I’m super thankful for a job that allows me to tweak. We can choose what hours we want to work here at Automattic, so I work four ten-hour days. This gives me time to travel, run errands with Mom and Chris and catch up on life in general on my three flex days.

In addition to that, I shuffled things around so my workdays end an hour before Jeopardy. This gives me an hour “layover” for some “me” time. During that hour I embrace tasks such as exercising, journaling, doing my Bible study and blogging.

In retrospect it’s quite similar to what Chris and I did back in the day. I just needed a reminder, I guess. The great news is that it’s working. I feel much more balanced, and I feel I’m able to provide a higher quality of engagement with the people with whom I’m connecting.

If you are struggling to find a life balance and constantly feel overwhelmed, I highly recommend this Layover strategy. It’s a winner in my book.

4 comments on “Layover Time in Life

  1. What a marvelous strategy! Our layover was quite different. When John commuted to the city (two hours each way), he would set down his briefcase, inhale a meal, and head out to church meetings. Weekends were filled with trains and church work. After 50 years, we are taking our layover now by walking two miles a day and chatting after every meal. There are still not enough hours in the day for us to do all that we’d like to do, but we really communicate now.

    • Chrissie

      I love that you are doing it now. One of my colleagues mentioned that he loves our job and not having to commute, but kind of missed how the commute was his layover/transition time. Guess that doesn’t happen when you are talking with your brother-in-law over the new-fangled CB radios while stuck in traffic, though, eh? ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. I know it’s an old joke, but I generally need a vacation day to recuperate from a vacation. Vacations are fun, but can be exhausting!

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